Response to: Little Girl Who Rode With Hammond In A Lambo Passed

"JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder!" (jqj213)
10/21/2013 at 16:12 • Filed to: RIP, Rant, Response, Lamborghini

I read !!!error: Indecipherable SUB-paragraph formatting!!! not even five minutes after it was posted on the front page. Before even clicking on it, my eyes were watering up. I remeber reading the original article, when she got to ride in the car. I was in tears. This has ruined my day.

The original article was so touching. I had tears of joy watching Emilia smile as Hammond drive her in that one of a kind pink Lamborghini. Seeing her so happy made my day and it made me realize that there are good people out there and that good things do happen.

Honestly, I don't like most people. I have two charities that I believe in. The first is the ASPCA. I love animals since they can't annoy you or be mean to you. They don't deserve bad treatment. The other is the Make a Wish Foundation. I always smile whenever I see these children actually happy.

I'm assuming Rays of Sunshine is the European equivalent. I may be wrong, so let me know. But they really did make her dreams come true. It sounds cheesy I know. But I’m, sure to Emilia, it meant the world to her. It was incredible that they got her a pink Aventador and Richard Hammond. The Lamborghini was one of kind. Hammond’s reaction was one of a kind. This kind of stuff doesn’t happen all the time.

So, when I read earlier today that she passed away, I was in tears. This was in the middle of my journalism class. I got so many looks from kids. But once they saw what I read, they were all a bit upset too. It honestly isn’t fair. Nothing about it is. These children didn’t ask for a life like this. Children should be running around, playing with toys or having fun in the park; not in a wheelchair hooked up to all this high tech machinery. What kind of life is that? Why does this happen to people like that?

I know this isn’t the same, but I work at a retirement home. Every day, I see people who can barely walk. People who can barely speak. People who have no recollection of what they did five minutes ago. And it really makes me upset. This wasn’t the life they asked for. I talk to some of these people and they can’t tell me what they had for breakfast. They don’t remember being a kid. They don’t remember their parents. They don’t remember their friends. I see some of them who cannot even walk without the use of a mobility scooter. Some cannot even stand upright. Why? Why does this happen to them? Some of these men and women lived incredible lives. One resident opened a chain of successful stores in my area; yet she cannot remember anything about doing so. She doesn’t even remember the name of these stores. Heck, she doesn’t even remember her own name somedays. It just isn’t fair at all.

I feel the same way about children. I completely agreed with ATX211 posts. First saying “Fuck this man. Not fair. Just not fair. I’m going to give my kid a hug now.” I completely agree. It simply isn’t. Stories like this make you realize how lucky we all are. A point that TheMyth is Swingin’ A 440 points out. “I've had a lot of bad shit go on in my life the last 2 years, but this reminds me to quit whining and quit feeling sorry for myself, my kid is growing up healthy and smart and for even if for only that, my life is absolutely perfect right now. I can't imagine the pain for Ms. Emilia's parents. Godspeed.” I absolutely loved the comment RazoE made, saying “Don’t worry, she’s playing cars with Connor right now. RIP.” I felt the same way for Connor as did for this. His story showed how good people can be. The pictures of his smile and joy will never leave my memory. This comment was just so touching. The next comment ATX211 made was also great. “That's it. I'm starting a new world. You are all invited if you like. I will be adding rules from time to time, but the first one is simple, and irrevocable:

ATX211 World Rules (I'll work on the name later)

Rule #1: No children get hurt, or die...Ever.” Really, why do they get hurt? What kind of twisted person lets this happen? Why does it happen? They don’t ask for it. The parents don’t ask for it. Nothing about it is fair. Nothing.

Hearing stories like this honestly spook me. When I get older (I’m only 15) I want to have kids. But stories like this make me worry. If I was to end up with a child who had some defect, I don’t know if I could live with that. Yes, I would love it. I’m not trying to sound sick and twisted. I just don’t know if I could live with myself for bringing a child like that into the world. They don’t have control over that. I honestly hate people that leave people on life support because they don’t want to let go. Honestly, you need to. What quality of life does that person have? What magical chance is there that they will be okay? My mother lost my sister during pregnancy. She had the chance to live; but only if she was on medication for the rest of her life. She would never be able to walk. Never be able to talk. Never be able to leave the hospital. Doctors said that she wouldn’t live longer than 3 months. I feel that they made the right call only because it isn’t fair to the kid. Again, I’m not trying to start fights here about abortion or religion or anything. I am just stating my point.

Honestly, sit back. Think about everything that has bothered you lately and made you whine. Now think about this. We are all lucky. Stories like this make you know that your life is actually pretty good. Unless you’ve had similar experiences, you shouldn’t be talking. You’ve gone through nothing compared to people like Emilia’s parents or Connor’s parents, or anyone who has suffered a loss like this. And also realize how lucky we are to have good people in the world. People like the workers of Rays of Sunshine for organizing this. People like Hammond for doing this. Good people exist. They all just touch us in different ways.

Thank you for reading.

DISCUSSION (4)

maximillious > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder!
10/21/2013 at 16:24

Thanks... I'm a fuckin mess at work now. Just gotta keep facing the screen and not sniffle too hard.

Kugelblitz > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder!
10/21/2013 at 18:26

Special needs kids used to terrify me.

Until my son was born.

You can love them, trust me. You will, and this comes from some wellspring you don't even know about right now. Part of your self tht has been dormant right up until that baby arrives wakes up and a whole new slate of feelings arrive. It happens when you become a parent.

Some kinds of birth defects can be predicted, others cannot, you just have to keep going with that kid, they will, how can you do any less?

Now, when I see a little boy or girl who have to experience the world through whatever challenges their birth placed upon them, well that is someone's hopes and dreams right there, that is a kid , and they are not so scary to me. I want to hug them all.

JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder! > Kugelblitz
10/21/2013 at 21:39

For me, its more of the fear of messing up. What if I do somethiong wrong?

Also, it is this strange fear of death. And now, I have this with everyone for some reason. Like, I sit there and wonder what if my grandma was to die tomorrow? And they are all healthy so it makes no sense. But I have this fear that what if they were to pass away? This pride and joy. The love of my life. Just gone. I would have to sit there and kill myself. I couldn't live like that.

Kugelblitz > JQJ213- Now With An Extra Cylinder!
10/22/2013 at 10:35

You will mess up, you will do something wrong. So what. No one starts out being perfect, they screw things up, learn and try not to repeat the mistakes again. Other fancier mistakes can happen but the whole process is not a litany of failures, it is the collaboration of you and a partner and this new person understanding how to be.

The great part is that kids pretty much love you unconditionally, which is amazing. So they get up every morning and are happy to see you. Every day.

Some of this may be unreachable to you right now because you haven't grown enough emotionally. Not a slander. Your head will be in a very different place in five years, or ten, or 20, and so on.

Don't let the fear of failing at something bind you.